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A couple things come to my mind when I hear this word- flavor (as in vanilla extract) and race. Vanilla sex is a widely misunderstood phrase, and its meaning changes depending on which sexual subculture employs it. Just like ‘kinky’, vanilla has a slightly different meaning for everyone. For example, I might call pegging vanilla, whereas I’m sure some of you would not agree. Read the rest of this entry »
So, if you missed my last post, I was one of the lucky few hundred to spend a couple of days at a hotel, rocking out at Thunder in the Mountains.
On Saturday, I spent some time meeting with vendors, and I think that with the help and skills of the Cock Wrangler, we may be able to bring you some new and fabulous kink items, as he is working on expanding our bondage and fetish section. So keep your eyes open over the next few months as we add some new companies to our repertoire.
Then I was able to spend the rest of my day taking the amazing classes that Thunder had to offer. I’d met Felice Shays before when I was out living on the East Coast, as she and her partner put on some fabulous queer sex parties in New York. I was so excited to take her class on vaginal fisting. I know that some of you have asked me about my journey towards expanding my vaginal capacity — this class was the capstone in my education. You can put as many dildos and vibes as you want inside, but to me, vaginal fisting is a whole different ball game. Read the rest of this entry »
I was lucky enough to spend the last weekend at Thunder in the Mountains, an awesome convention like thing where hundreds of kinky people descend from all over upon the beautiful Rockies. People of every type and background, of all creeds. Masters and mistresses, slaves, bois, boys, servants, Sirs, Ma’ams, Misses, tops, bottoms, Doms, subs, fetishists, and so much more. Pretty much any type of kinky person you could think of was there.
Basically, Thunder lasts Friday afternoon through Sunday night. It’s a combination of informative classes during the day, super hot play parties at night, and throw in a talent show, and that’s pretty much the awesomeness of Thunder. All sorts of presenters were there, from the amazing Lolita Wolf, the incredibly smart and talented Midori, International Mr. Leather 2003 John Pendal, the beautiful and witty Rita Seagrave, the humorous and ingenious Felice Shays, and many many more. Classes taught every thing from rope bondage to vaginal fisting, hot wax to how to top for bottoms. Read the rest of this entry »
1. The Mini G Rock seems to have a popularity that precedes it, based on what those in the know about the inner workings of the review program have told me- lots of requests for this toy. Does it live up to its fame? Find out what new reviewer Cobalt Clouds had to say about it.
2. I think I’ll let Spiking Glue speak for her own review here: “Half the time I hate her, half the time I love her, she’s my pink bitch’.” If that wasn’t enough to make you want to read her review of the Sugar Drop, how about this: “I just… I wanted to fuck her like a dirty monkey…”? Makes me want to go read the review all over again.
3. Follow Ice Ice Baby through her learning process with Bendybeads.The question of using silicone lube with high-end silicone toys came up again in this review; she was kind enough to risk the integrity of these silicone beads and experiment, with good results!
Also, Essin’ Em had the pleasure of attending Thunder in the Mountains, one of the larger BDSM conferences in the country, this past weekend. Check back for the 4-part blog series about her experience. First installment tomorrow.
For starters, I’m not talking here about the nonconsensual act of rubbing one’s genitals against an unsuspecting stranger. That’s actually ‘frotteurism’, though both words are related to the French verb frotter, to rub. Frotteur is the French noun for ‘one who rubs’; hence, frotteurism. Which I don’t endorse, it’s creepy and weird and nonconsensual, in case you missed that the first time I said it.
Moving on, frottage is the (perfectly consensual, and safe!) act of rubbing the genitals on any part of a partner’s body (genital or non-genital region). It is done clothed, naked, in a car, on the dance floor… Frottage is distinguished from irrumatio in being a more general rubbing activity, whereas the latter indicates a couple specific body part arrangements (see my post on irrumatio). However, frottage is also an art technique. Read the rest of this entry »
I don’t have any creative introduction to this week’s review roundup for you… I’ll leave that to Dame Demi, who wrote a sonnet for the Hitachi in our forum this week.
Hitachi Sonnet
Hitachi Magic Wand, I sing thy praise!
For thou hast given me so much delight!
Alone…with other toys…in many ways
You’ve brought me pleasure in the dark of night!
Thou might be hard to clean, and make much noise,
And some would grouse thou only hast two speeds,
But oh! You out-perform a room of boys
With your delightful, most orgasmic deeds!
Your soft and thrumming head I do adore,
That leathery, bendy, vibing tennis ball!
It always leave me wanting more and more!
You have attachments, and I want them all!
Hitachi, I must give you, if you please,
Five stars, five vrooms, and just as many bees.
-DD
On that note-
1. I didn’t think it could be done, but kinkyshay’s review of the Hitachi actually gave me a renewed sense of appreciation for this toy (as did the lovely poem above).
2. Another reminder of the classics, Raising the Stakes explains exactly why a simple cock ring is still worth it.
3. Just in case any of you didn’t see this review yet- Bulma’s tragic, yet hilarious, experience with yet another sensation gel strengthened my belief that those lubes/gels/whathaveyou have no place in my house.
When you have a little more time to muse over some new inventions (and maybe fantasize about adding them to your collection), check these out:
1. The eyedildo, a nine inch acrylic dildo complete with a color camera and LED lighting in the tip, so you can explore deeper recesses of your partner’s body. It runs on AA batteries and hooks up to the television for better viewing. Though the website is a little unpolished (”Explore all the areas you’ve only dreamed of: Labia, Clitoris…” Last time I checked, the labia and clitoris were still visible to the naked eye. And yes, I know that the clitoris is partly internal, but not in a way that allows for camera penetration) there is an entertaining how-to video. I could see this toy adding a new dimension to medical play.
2. Though I’m (happily) removed from the wave of Wii sweeping the nation, I would make an exception to play with the new Wiibrator. It comes with two attachments (for male and female parts) and is a two-player game. Hm, orgasm control anyone? See a (kind of confusing) video complete with hand-motion demonstration here.
A whole host of other tech-inspired toys were just showcased at the Adult Novelty Expo. Check out Regina Lynn’s roundup (the Power Bullet looks like the answer to all bullet failures everywhere, except for its size).
I’m forgoing my usual format this week to write fairly self-serving, though still linguistically-bent, post about the term ‘play’ as used in the leather scene. For those of you not familiar with this, play is the accepted and commonly-used term for any BDSM interaction (scene), sexual or not- play might refer to just a few minutes of flogging someone, or hours of a complex scenario that involves multiple types of stimulation/pain and orgasm. While it’s certainly useful to have a term to refer to kinky encounters that aren’t necessarily sexual (where ’sex’ or any associated slang terms are not appropriate), I have a personal distaste for the word ‘play’ as this term.
So, I found (with a little help from Audacia Ray), this little snazzy video, a public service announcement, if you will:
Click Here Because It Won’t Embed
And I hope now, with the help of a little singing couple called the Wet Spots, you understand exactly why you shouldn’t put things in your butt that do not have a flanged base to help get it out. All of our silicone, glass and metal butt plugs, and most of our silicone, metal and glass dildos (although not all), are ok to go for the bum, but just remember; if the base is not (significantly) bigger than the toy, keep in in the cunt (or the mouth, for that matter). Butts need bases! (new slogan; love it, use it!)
Sometimes, simple is best. Simple touches and obvious items can add more thrill to your sexual adventures than overly complicated toys. Three great examples for this week’s roundup:
1. The Tiger, a basic Fun Factory dildo with some extra ridges. The head ridge on a cock can feel so good, so I think adding a few more of those all the way down the length of the shaft was a brilliant plan. Hotflashes & Wetdreams thought so too.
2. Condoms. Trojan extended pleasure, to be exact. No fancy pouches, bumps, extender heads to be had here, just a basic condom with a little extra lube. D of DandE isn’t too shy to share his appreciation of the prolonging lube.
3. Ryder butt plug, possibly the best basic, good-for-beginners butt plug ever designed. Praise for this plug is mounting; in addition to that great review by Calico, it received another good write-up this week from Bulma. I’m about to get one myself, and I don’t even make a habit of sticking things in my ass.
So…maybe you loved my post about sex in public. Or perhaps you were incredibly amused by my variety of video blogs (co-starring Delilah Dougless, Shazam, Lili Desi, and Johnny Romance). Maybe my post on what sex is to each of us really made you think. Or possibly, you followed me over from my blog Sexuality Happens.
Either you like my blogging that you’ve encountered here at EdenFantasys or you don’t. If you don’t, stop reading now. 
If you do, I’d like to ask for a favor from you.
Rori at Between My Sheets is putting together her very own list of the Top Sex Bloggers of 2008.
I was thinking the other day about my undying love for the material of silicone. When used to create toys, you can sterilize it, heat it, cool it. It is body safe, and unless you bite it, or melt it with more silicone, it pretty much can last forever. When used in lubes (such as one of my favs), it stays silky and smooth for a long period of time, can be used for back massages, and as Cock Wrangler pointed out, is great for fixing squeaky parts of things.
This got me wondering, with all the great sex toy/lube uses, what else do we use silicone for in this wonderful world of ours?
Of course, there are implants. I’m not talking about the liquid silicone-filled implants that have caused medical issues of leakage. I’m talking about solid silicone, that looks like a clear cutlet of meat…used for calf implants, pec. implants, etc.
According to our good (although not always accurate) friends at Wikipedia, silicone has a HUGE variety of uses:
Remember when I promised you a more complex, less common word? Well, I did, and here it is:
Irrumatio- the act of thrusting the penis between various body parts of a partner’s, or into their mouth. So, basically, face sitting/f*cking, a breast job, rubbing a penis between your partner’s thighs, etc. Referring to that first option, irrumatio is a more specific (or alternative?) form of fellatio, depending on how rigidly you define that word
So I know sex is supposed to be hot and heavy. That’s all kinds of fine and dandy with me.
But what happens when it’s 102 degrees outside, you’re horny as hell, yet you can’t even IMAGINE touching another person, not to mention getting it on?
Here are some suggestions:
*Drop a glass dildo in a bowl of ice water. Insert. Repeat as needed.
*See above. Use a steel toy instead.
*Hop in an ice cold shower with your honey. Kiss, bite, fuck, suck, lick, etc. Then cuddle naked until it gets just too damn hot.
Percussion play is a catch-all term for hitting someone with some kind of instrument- this category includes floggers, canes, straps, whips, sticks, spoons, fists, and just about anything else you can think of to tap, hit or abuse your bottom with. That said, my three favorite reviews of relevant items from the week:
1. Cinnocent, a completely new reviewer, reminds us (or me, at least) that the Vibrawhip Crop is a great multi-functional item, not just a vibrating crop. I like her sneaky approach to public sex toy use.
2. Crop-happy week- another review from a new reviewer of the Mini Crop by Spartacus. Scintilla makes a good point that small does not equal wimpy when it comes to hitting toys.
3. Last but not least, a good review of the Smooth Double Header. But that’s a dildo, you say? It certainly is, and I imagine that the weight of the 17+ inch rubber cock could definitely pack a punch. There’s an added amusement factor for the top and possibly humiliation for the bottom being hit with such a toy. After this week’s review by CookieMonster, and an earlier good review on this item, I’m tempted to get it.
Ever notice how so many sex-related words are four letter words? Hmm… Next week, I’ll start a round of multi-syllabic, less common words. Promise.
However, right now, I’m going to talk about smut. It’s one of my favorite words to describe porn, erotica, dirty magazines, etc. It is an all-encompassing kind of word. as with all slang words, it has other meanings. Off the top of my head, I thought of the first one: black mark, soft coal, soot or sooty substance. Basically, something involving soft messy coal. However, it gets messier from there. Smut is also a type of fungi that infects various plants (usually grains) with disease, turning them into black powder. Yum! Read the rest of this entry »
I was out of town for a few days, so your weekly roundup is coming in a little late… Given that, and following Essin’ Em’s post last week about traveling with sex toys, this week’s theme is portability. Whether because of size, function or understated design, there’s a undeniable appeal to toys you can just grab and go (or come) with. Not saying I don’t keep a Hitachi next to my bed, but when I’m on the move (which is a lot of the time) I like supplementals that can move with me.
1. Emt gave these Supercuffs by Sportsheets an excellent test. Strong and light, they’re also a more subtle version of standard leather cuffs. They can probably even be worn as bracelets until one is ready to put them to their proper use.
2. The sleek Femblossom got a good write-up by a new reviewer, Parhelions. I think she said it best: “I decided my stimulus check ought to stimulate my clit.” Best use of government money I can imagine! This is a rechargeable vibe, which makes it both more and less portable, I suppose. But, it gets points in the design category- it’s nondescript enough to toss around the house or carry in a bag without questions- and for being a self-contained unit, rather than something that eats up batteries/produces waste.
3. One of the most thorough reviews of vaginal balls I’ve seen in a while from her.royal.redness. Though there are better options out there (like these), balls like this can be worn anywhere, any time, with no one the wiser (unless you tell them how much fun you’re having in your pants).
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