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And, we’re back… with a bang. First pick for this week’s review roundup (and I do admit to being easily swayed here by the idea of someone who can take a cock this large) is by new reviewer Naughty Boy. I hope his serious engagement with the giant will put to bed any beliefs that such items are novelty only. I also hope some better manufacturers get on the large-scale wagon.
Second, TSM, or Misanthrope as he’s now known on EF, gets cozy with a leather hood. If the hilarity in this review isn’t enough for you, I believe he’s writing about it in conjunction with the Flip Hole over at his blog.
This last review pick by Puck is doubling as a public service announcement, because I just know that some of you are not only into playing with toys, but also into home-made porn. So do yourselves a favor and get this book. I know I’m going to.
I’m not as interested in sex as I was before I got pregnant, but I still don’t want my husband to masturbate! What can I do to make sure he doesn’t?
Even after explaining why a husband masturbates, it’s never easy for a woman to accept. Catching your husband or boyfriend looking at pornography can often feel just as hurtful as if he was having a real affair. It often makes women feel like they’re being sexually rejected in favor of fantasy women they could never compete with.
But it’s a fact; all men masturbate.
I think the reason we don’t talk about it is because many women, especially during pregnancy, choose to be deliberately ignorant of their boyfriend or husband ‘taking care of things’ in privacy. That’s sensible enough. When a woman’s not in the mood, giving her partner a little space and privacy will allow him to make sure his needs are met without disturbing hers. But if the thought of your partner masturbating really troubles you, perhaps it’s worth discussing the subject. Be warned, the likelihood of a man admitting (even to his wife) that he masturbates is slim. That’s why most couples seem to avoid talking about the issue. Read the rest of this entry »
We’re on a temporary hiatus over here while we figure out the process for moving to our new blog. Bigger (’cause you know I’m a size king) and better are on the way, as well as our regularly scheduled roundups and general sexy fabulousness.
A group of NYC sex-bloggers is putting together a fabulous 2009 calendar with proceeds going to a very good cause, and EF is helping out! We’re providing help with printing and shipping the calendars, and we can’t wait to see the final product.
Check out all the information here, and consider purchasing a calendar with a personalized message on your favorite day. What an excellent holiday gift!
Warming, cooling, tingling, enhancing, sensitizing, lasting… when I read about any of the wealth of arousal lubes on the market these days, I end up more confused than anything else. How do they do what they do? And how do they do all these things at once? How does something warm, then cool, or cool, then warm? In pursuit of answers, I investigated the makings of Eden’s most popular arousal lubes, and then went for help. Five bloggers - Ansley Agnello, Baby Sinead, Persephone, ~Storm, and Thursday’s Child - will put five lubes through stringent testing, rate them each, and choose the best. But first, a look into what makes these lubes do whatever it is that they do. The lubes in question: Pure Passion, Climax Bursts Aphrodisiac Enhanced, ID Pleasure, Wet Heating Massage Lotion and, the dark horse pick, JO Clitoris Stimulation Gel. The key ingredients:
1. Menthol: Present in three of our contestants (and numerous other sensation lubes), this is the same substance that gives Vicks Vaporub, Tiger Balm, toothpaste, gum, and some cigarettes their tingly, refreshing sensation.
2. Arginine HCL: Arginine is an amino acid that is considered essential to all mammals. Consumption of L-Arginine (one of the most common forms) has a number of benefits, the most relevant being increased circulation. Interestingly, it’s also been used to treat erectile dysfunction (in combination with other chemical components).
There’s some evidence that consumption of Arginine can exacerbate herpes outbreaks, so people with HSV should avoid this ingredient. Because of this concern, Arginine presence is noted in the safety features of lubicrants on the site; it’s not in four of the lubes in question.
3. Herbs: Panax quinquefolium (american ginseng) root extract, ginko biloba leaf extract, horny goat weed, wild yam extract, guarana seed extract, damiana extract, and others. We are a nation obsessed with, among other things, herbal remedies, enhancements, and so on. Some of these herbs, like horny goat weed, are believed to be aphrodisiacs and also make appearances in various OTC libido enhancement supplements. Some are sold as supplements for other purposes. I’m going to leave the speculation about what these and other herbs do for arousal and sensation alone, and let the testing speak for itself.
Five bloggers, five lubes. Which goo will come out on top?
The Latin root cis means ‘on the same side’ (in contrast to the Latin root trans, which means across or beyond). Gender comes from the Latin genus - kind, sort or class. So, cisgender refers to a gender identity/presentation that matches (is on the same side as) one’s assigned sex, or someone who’s not transgendered. The word was created to be a complement to the term transgender, and as a better alternative to saying ‘biological’ or ‘genetic’ man/woman when distinguishing a non-transgendered individual.
Gender was historically used to simply indicate different types of things, and this has persisted in modern usage, to a degree. For example, connectors and fasteners used in electrical/mechanical trades are gendered male or female. The difference between older usage and these modern ones is that now, those assignments are made in direct analogy to genitalia — the piece with something that protrudes is male, while the piece with a corresponding hole/indentation is female. Gender is also used linguistically: some languages have grammatical gender that assigns a gender to every noun, not always in correlation with the meaning of the word.
Next week- the final installment!
I was feeling very turned on last night, but my husband didn’t make the moves on me. Then, after I went to bed, he stayed up and I suspect he masturbated. Why didn’t he make the effort to seduce me instead?
The reason married men masturbate has nothing to do with finding their partners unattractive. Sometimes, sex while pregnant can just be unsettling for a man. He still adores you and finds you beautiful and sexy, but the bumps and kicks emerging from your pregnant belly can occasionally make the intimacy of sex seem wrong – like there’s a third person in bed with you (and not in the way he fantasizes about!)
Don’t be surprised to find your husband totally insatiable and into your sexy, pregnant body one minute, then unresponsive the next. He has to put up with your mood swings. It’s only fair you do the same in return! Read the rest of this entry »
The following came across my inbox the other day, and I thought it was important to pass along. Please fill out the survey if it applies to you, and feel free to re-post or pass it on to others. This is a really important issue in our society, and after the violence and hate crimes that occurred in the past year, I’m glad it’s being brought up. It’s also important to realize not all discrimination i blatant and/or obvious. So forward it to your friends, blog it, do what you need to do to get the word out.
In the wake of one of the most violent years on record of assaults on transgender people, the National Center for Transgender Equality (NCTE) and the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force have teamed up on a comprehensive national survey to collect data on discrimination against transgender people in housing, employment, public accommodations, healthcare, education, family life and criminal justice.
You’ve probably noticed some new blood around here. We’re changing things up, and I’ll most likely be moving this weekly post to Sundays in the near future.
1. The Story of the Skin-like Material Dildo and the Happy-Family Dresser Drawer. Sure, the entire review of this funny-looking clit vibrator is excellent, but the ‘Experience’ section is what makes it worth reading, even if you’re at work. Mystery is spot-on, with both her toy analysis and illustrative storytelling skills.
2. Yet again, I find myself being convinced to think about bringing home something I hadn’t given a third thought to (because yes, I did consider the desirability of the Tentacle one more time after first seeing it). Even without the harness compatibility, I’m almost sold on this dildo thanks to Bad Influence Girl’s review.
3. In keeping with the weird-looking toy theme, this review was a good read. In part because it’s about a totem pole-looking dildo, I’ll be honest. Sienna was able to appreciate both the functionality and humor of this one.
Alright, so Baby Sinead’s Q&A post about more hardcore/extreme porn sites/companies is a little over a week old, but it’s such an interesting topic- degradation and abuse of women in porn- that I had to share it anyway.
I found ~Storm’s blog a few weeks ago when it was in a lull, but I was happy to discover that her smut is worth the wait.
The Snarling Misanthrope is not only a fantastic new writer on this blog, he’s pretty much the most entertaining read in my RSS feed right now. Keep up with his Sex-Ed in the 60’s series here.
Addendum: this is an older post and an extra for this week, mainly included here because I love Pit Bulls. For those who don’t, this yearly pin-up calendar might convince you to reconsider.
Have you noticed? EdenFantasys.com is no longer carrying anal numbing products.
Customers searching for these products will see the following message:
We love anal sex! In fact we love it so much that we want to make sure YOU love it too. For that reason we no longer carry anal numbing products. If you are practicing safe buttsex, you’ll have no need (or desire) to be numb. You will want to feel each and every pleasurable sensation.
But what if it you’re a beginner and anal sex is not yet completely comfortable? If you experience pain, this is your body’s way of telling you to slow down or stop. Done correctly, the receptive partner should feel stretching, fullness and lots of pleasure — but little to no discomfort.
Here are some suggestions for having the most pleasurable anal sex experience without the need for numbing:
Start slowly. Use a very small dildo (like the Compact or the Small Silk) before you attempt penetration with something larger. This will give your body a chance to learn to relax the anal muscles gradually.
Use lots of a very good lube. Drugstore lubes are not the best choices for anal sex. Instead, use a thick, long-lasting product like Maximus or Sliquid. Reapply frequently if things get uncomfortable.
Keep in mind that the goal is pleasure for both partners. Guys, the gripping sensations of a happy, orgasmic ass are not to be missed. Use fingers, a small vibe like the Golden Nugget or a strap-on vibe like the Venus Butterfly to give clitoral pleasure during anal sex.
Stop if you feel pain. Anal sex is learned over a period of days or weeks, not one night. Move on to other fun activities and try buttsex again some other time.
Remember, go slowly, use lots of lube and stop if it hurts. Pain is a signal that your body is in trouble. Use pain as a reminder to add lube, go more slowly, or wait until another night.
Follow these suggestions and your body (and especially your ass) will be very happy.
We’re proud to offer safer choices in products as well as education to make your sexual experimentation as pleasurable as possible.
Sorry I’ve been a bit absent with these posts lately. I ran out of inspiration, temporarily.
However, some recent blog posts (have you checked out the newly updated blogroll?) have nudged me out of my dry spell. I was reading one of Betty Rocket’s posts about people in the lifestyle, and had to remind myself which lifestyle she was talking about. It’s one of those words we take for granted these days, but ‘lifestyle’ is a fairly new term, dating back to only 1929 according to the OED.
Coined by psychologist Alfred Adler, lifestyle originally referred simply to someone’s basic psychological makeup that informs their behavior throughout life. Adler referred to this as life style or style of life. Over time, mainly through the forces of marketing and, more recently, sexual subcultures, lifestyle has come to signify a specific type of life style. In this way, there’s been a narrowing of definition here. In initial use, I understand life style as something universal - every person alive would have a certain individual life style. In modern usage, however, lifestyle always refers to some specific way of life, though it needs a modifier to determine exactly which way of life that might be (swinger lifestyle, gay lifestyle, party lifestyle, and so on). Read the rest of this entry »
This is the third out of five total installments of this article, by Roland Hulme.
I found links to pornographic websites on our computer. My husband’s looking at porn! Surely if he’s masturbating to pictures and videos of other women, he doesn’t find me attractive any more!
Men’s sexuality isn’t quite as sophisticated as women’s. We’re very visual creatures and pornography is one of the most satisfying tools to sexually arouse us during masturbation. But the fact that men masturbate while watching bleached-blonde porn-stars do sexual acrobatics doesn’t mean we don’t find our partners attractive any more. In fact, there’s far more going on in our brains than just enjoying what we see on screen. Read the rest of this entry »
Part II of Butterfly Temptress‘ cancer journal series is up; she starts to get into the grit of how illness affects relationships in this piece. Check back mid-week, every week, for updates on the page.
(Editor’s note: I’m updating this post now that all parts are up. - Cock Wrangler)
The Snarling Misanthrope from Junkbuzzed is this week publishing a five-part review of one of our favorite male masturbation toys, the Fleshlight.
I’ve read it all. It’s brilliant. And I’m not just saying that because he called me “The Angel-Faerie of the Internets,” either, although I’m having that tattooed across my right breast as soon as is humanly possible.
Go. Read. Be ready to laugh:
- The Fleshlight Follies: Part One
- The Fleshlight Follies: Part Two
- The Fleshlight Follies: Part Three
- The Fleshlight Follies: Part Four
- The Fleshlight Follies: Part Four-and-a-Half
- The Fleshlight Follies: Part Five
Thank you, Snarling Misanthrope, for making me laugh so hard I had to fetch my inhaler.
1. Sometimes I include a review based solely on its ability to sell me on something I wouldn’t have otherwise considered. Such is the case with this review of Good Clean Love Oil by the Porn Librarian. Light massage oil that smells good, doesn’t leave a residue AND doubles as decent lube? I’m sold.
2. I’m a bit horrified by this book, but couldn’t help laughing while reading the review. KinkyPink nailed it on the head with her title: “Leave home without it!”
3. One of the newer reviewers, Thursday’s Child, has been writing hot reviews of some excellent toys (like the Rock Chick). I particularly enjoyed this one.
1. I couldn’t stop smiling as I read Essin’ Em’s “Things I do that don’t mean I’m in love with you” post today. No, being nice doesn’t necessarily come with strings attached. I’d like to add my own caveat- “Just because I love you doesn’t mean I’ll do all these things for you.”
2. Bill in Exile is my new favorite spot for pretty men in pretty leather (or nude!). C. Scott provides readers with plenty of new eye candy regularly, but this post is my personal favorite this week (especially that sixth one down in a classic teeth-on-zipper pose).
3. Betty Rocket on couples to watch out for (in the swinger lifestyle). A similar guide could be written about any sexual subculture, and hers is certainly an entertaining read.
by Militant Ginger - rolandhulme.blogspot.com
Why does my husband have to masturbate? Can’t he just put his libido on hold for a while?
The bad thing about marital masturbation being a taboo topic is that women don’t understand why husbands or boyfriends can’t just ‘do without sex’ like women (especially pregnant women) have to do. It comes down to the way men are sexually hard-wired. Men can get sexually aroused at the drop of a hat (if it’s a particularly sexy hat) and while it’s easy to turn them on, it’s not so simple to turn them back off again.
One common joke amongst men is: ‘What’s the difference between hard and light?’ The answer is: ‘You can get to sleep with a light on.’
The fact is, men are permanently producing sperm and need to experience regular climaxes to get rid of it, otherwise they genuinely experience an intense sexual frustration jokingly referred to as ‘blue balls.’ Alfred Kinsey discovered that men who go without sex or masturbation for extended periods of time are more likely to experience nocturnal emissions (what we commonly refer to as wet dreams). Not to mention, the act of masturbation is highly pleasurable, it reduces tension and it’s been proven to reduce the risk of men developing prostate cancer later in life. Read the rest of this entry »
Analtastic, for the win. Any review (or book) that begins with a threesome and ends with anal fisting has got me hooked. Thanks for that, Sienna.
I won’t ever buy a sex toy that’s jelly (crystalessence, etc.). Or cherry-scented, for that matter. But Cosmic Lioness almost had me convinced that I might just want to try this g-spot vibe. I hate to admit it, but it’s true. Read why.
Last, but certainly not least, from new reviewer Baby Sinead, another reason to think about the relative volume level of your vibes. For fun on the airplane, obviously.
I love music.
I listen to it when I’m writing, when I’m shower, when I’m reading, when I’m just playing around on the interwebs. Music is an oh so important part of my life, and I do my best to always have it around me.
Some songs I hear, and I just get incredibly turned on and want to have sex, for a variety of reasons. Closer (Nine Inch Nails) is one…and come on, “I want to fuck you like an animal” - how can you NOT want to have sex? Another is Sober (Tool), because this really sexy girl I know always sings it at karaoke, and the way she sings it makes we want to fuck her right there on the stage. Strict Machine (Goldfrapp) just has that beat that makes you want to get it on…plus, I mean, come on! It’s a song about a vibrator for goodness sake!
And then there are the songs you want to have sex to. Back when I was young and innocent, I thought it was all about the slow “lovey dovey” songs. I made mixes with Bed of Roses (Bon Jovi), Can You Feel the Love Tonight (Lion King!), Brick (Ben Folds Five), Melon Collie and the Infinite Saddness (Smashing Pumpkins). but slowly and surely, I began to realize that the sex I was having was not slow and sensuous and lovely dovey. No, it was fun and fast, and needed a good bass line, or at least some beats…with a few slower songs thrown in for make out time! Read the rest of this entry »
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